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How To Make Cemetery Visits A Positive Experience For The Kids

Cemetery visits offer people the opportunity to experience a special connection with loved ones who have passed. But unfortunately the experience of visiting deceased loved ones in a cemetery can be an overwhelming and stressful situation, especially for kids who don't have much experience with maintaining relationships in cemeteries. If you're planning to take your little one to the cemetery for a visit with their loved one, use the following tips and tricks to help ensure that the experience is a positive one:

Take Time to Prep for the Visit

The best way to make your child's experience at the cemetery a positive one is to take time to prep for the visit beforehand. The more your child knows about cemetery visits, the easier they will be able to adapt to the atmosphere and appreciate the experience as a chance to connect with their lost loved one. Start by talking to your child about what a cemetery is for and how it is designed to serve as a memorial and place of connection between a loved one who has passed away and their living friends and relatives.

It's also a good idea to ask your child to help you collect a few things to take with you on your visit that can be used to commemorate the occasion and to memorialize the loved one you are going to visit. Photos of past events with your lost loved one in them, flowers, pendants, cards with letters written in them, and baskets full of home baked goodies are all intriguing options to consider.

Turn the Visit into a Celebration

There is no reason for your cemetery visit to be a glum occasion – instead, turn the experience into a celebration and you'll surely create fond memories to cherish about the visit instead of dismissing it as an uncomfortable task. A subtle celebration is favorable over one that includes balloons and streamers, as these streamers may disrupt other visitors who happen to be in the cemetery at the same time as you are.

However, bringing along a couple of photos to display during your visit is sure to complement the occasion in which you're celebrating whether that be you loved one's birthday, a holiday, or simply a visit to make a deeper spiritual connection with one another. The visit can be turned into a celebration by sharing loving stories about your loved one, reading a poem that's dedicated to the deceased, or taking the time to present a bouquet of flowers or a gift at the gravesite.  

Teach and Practice Proper Visitor Etiquette

It's important to teach your child proper visitor etiquette before heading to a cemetery in order to avoid any problems with attendants or complaints by other visitors that can result in a disrupting or stressful experience for everyone involved. Your little one should understand that whispering is a preferred method of communication in cemeteries, and that no headstones should be touched, walked on, or even brushed up against on the way to or from the headstone you are there to visit.

Things like flowers, coins, and photos may be left by others at gravesites as memorials, so your child needs to know that nothing should be picked up or moved for any reason unless you provide express permission to do so. Ask your child to bring along a reusable bag so you can take your garbage away from the cemetery with you when you leave.

These tips and tricks should encourage your child to keep an open mind about visiting their deceased loved ones in a cemetery setting, and to treat the occasion as a special time that is worth celebrating as opposed to dreading. For more tips about cemetery behavior and etiquette, contact a company like Memorial Mortuaries.